It is tempting to start rejecting the demands of living. But the alternative — really sliding back to a place where you are solely following your own whims and desires — may alleviate your boredom, but only because, by being a mess, you hand it over to other people. Your own indulgence is just a demand placed elsewhere.
There is nothing more crushingly monotonous for the people who care about you than letting them down time and time again.
But in the meantime, things can and will happen to you. It will not just be this way forever because nothing is just the way it is for long. You may fall out of love with your boyfriend or find a job you like more or move to a different apartment in a different city. Your life might blow up without you lighting the fuse. You might realize you are a little depressed and go to therapy and begin to feel much better.
You might realize you are a little depressed and go to therapy and still feel bored but in a way you can accept.
You might take advantage of your enviable lack of debt and decide to travel to other countries, because the world is quite large and contains places where you can stand and feel small. You might eventually have a baby although I would strongly encourage you not to do that yet.
I can only recommend that you try to live it in a way that is not a drain on others. Have a question for A Fuck-up? Email DearFuckup theoutline. Does anyone else feel the same about adulthood?
You should probably seek therapy. Last time my life was boring was in 10th grade English. This is not old news. Originally Posted by LarsMac. If you are bored and not happy with your life then change it.
I'm not bored or depressed. Start a new hobby, join a club, join a gym, do some volunteer work etc. Maybe you need to surround yourself with more positive people because most of us are not miserable. It's harder to make friends as an adult but the rest of us do it so you can to. Originally Posted by Crazy-Cat-Lady. It CAN seem that way at times, if you allow yourself to view it that way, but to me the challenge and the excitement come from NOT letting it get that way.
I do think you have two separate issues being asserted in your OP, the "adulthood is boring," and the bullying theme, and they should be handled differently.
If grown people are regularly being mean to you, something is wrong. ETA: I remember you also, and you do have challenges in your life that many adults don't face, and that is something that can and should be dealt with support from others but has nothing to do, really, with life being boring or not.
Last edited by BirdieBelle; at AM.. Therapy for questioning the way life is? I question everything. Which is related to my OP as adulthood also includes being forced to accept something rather than question it. Originally Posted by Sweet Like Sugar. I feel that life in general is a slow death- not just adulthood. I wouldn't say that childhood was so much more fun for me, but I guess I did have more optimism for the future than I do now. This prayer has helped me not only reflect back on the meaningful moments each day, but recognize those moments as they are happening in real-time.
Bored of your neighborhood? Bored with your job? How can you work within the structures you already use to create new opportunities? Last fall, a few months into my new job at a nonprofit organization, I realized I was too comfortable. So I decided to start a book club at work with a friend of mine. Through this experience, I interacted with people on different teams across the organization.
Beyond that, I no longer felt relegated to work conversations — I was able to relate to my co-workers in a new way by getting to know who they were outside of their professional lives. All it takes is brainstorming ways to invest more deeply in the areas of your life. Plan a trip; organize a dinner for friends; get coffee with a coworker.
It gives me something to work toward, and when I return back to my job and my life in D. Feeling restless can be a gift — it points us to an innate hunger we have for something more.
If we listen closely, those desires can serve as a compass to lead us. They were placed in our hearts by God and we will find joy when we follow them — even if they are telling us to stay where we are. Acknowledge it for what it is.
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